Is Your Inside Voice All In Your Head?
You hear it all the time. It’s that inside voice that tells you you are no good or at least not good enough.
Other people have told you too, and guess what, you probably believed them. In fact, the inside voice that tells you that you are not good enough probably started with someone – a trusted adult (parent/teacher/relative) or peer (friend/sibling/classmate) – telling you early in life that your voice was no good, at least not for singing.
The conclusion came without you even thinking about it: “I am no good” or “my voice is no good.” And the next judgment that hit you smack in the face became “I am a failure and there is no hope for me for ever singing like a “normal” person.”
I hear it all the time. I hear it so often that I decided to write about it and here is why.
That inside voice has been my inside voice too. I got the message early in life the same way you did. Perhaps not about music but about other things, like “you have no self-control” or “you are just a dreamer who is not in touch with reality” or my personal favorite “you’ll never get your act together because you don’t even know what your act is!”
I hate the outer voice of someone else who tries to drown me out by making those kinds of statements or judgments about me. Sometimes they know they are doing it and sometimes they don’t. It really doesn’t matter though because the message is the same:
- YOU ARE NO GOOD
- YOU ARE A FAILURE
- YOU WILL NEVER SUCCEED NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY
- GIVE UP NOW WHILE YOU’RE AHEAD
This message quickly turns into your inside singing voice mindset. After that it turns into what your outside voice sounds like.
Is Your Inside Voice Actually Your Outside Voice?
I believe it is. That is why I am here to help you.
If you choose to learn something different about your inside voice then your outside voice will change right along with how you change on the inside.
What do I mean by that.
Well, the way your voice sounds to the outside world will reflect just about everything you think about yourself on the inside. And you can’t really fake that. You might be able to hide it for awhile, or distract people by pretending to be something that you don’t really believe about yourself, but eventually, the truth will come slammin’ out of you.
It may come out in nervous singing or tense singing or shy singing, angry singing….you name it, whatever is truly going on with your inside voice will be your outside voice that the world hears.
Here are 3 important singing voice questions for you to ask yourself:
- What do you want for yourself and your voice?
- Do you want to change the way you sound?
- Are you willing to take action to change the way you sing?
I trust your answers are YES to all three of those questions and if I am right, I encourage you to take action now.
Change The Way You Sing By Changing Your Inside Voice
Do this now to take action:
- Absorb my post about your Singing Voice Mindset and immerse yourself in my true story about Nervous Singing
Joy, you are so much on point with this article. Thank God for the Voice Buster (that’s you). I look forward to more of your teaching. You are truly heaven sent, until next time take care.
Pat,
What a fun name you have given me. The Voice Buster! I like that.
Looking forward to hearing you sing some more.
Joy
I liked this article because it makes me think About the power I have With myself and my independence. Im not going to let other people choose what I do. If I want to sing I will sing.
Marisa,
You are absolutely on target with your understanding of the power you have within you and singing for the sake of singing and not for what others say or think!
Go for it!
Joy.
Hollie linked to this page from her blog about infant loss and healing. Singing is part of her healing process. It is truly part of all of our healing processes.